If you asked me, when I was in my 20's, what was my philosophy of life, I would have talked to you about friendship. Life went on, it seemed to me, with the support of friends, and the giving of that same support. I was lucky then, and I'm lucky now, to be encircled with a wonderful group of friends.
My philosophy hasn't changed that much as I journey into my 50's, I simply have a different way of expressing it. It's not that friendship isn't important, but it's having community that greatly impacts ones quality of life. The people in your community don't have to be your friends, although often they are, but as a group they are there to support you, and you support them.
There are those that think that the technology of the 21st Century that makes our world smaller and longer distances more accessible also makes it more impersonal and fragmented. I disagree. I think we can use the technology to make our local communities easier to maintain as well as create global communities we can all share.
I am lucky to be a part of both types of communities. My Beth Sholom community is an incredibly rich source for me--source of friendship, of spirit, of all kinds of support. I saw that support manifested in a wedding this weekend--one of the most joyous events I have attended. And the community is there as well when the shit hits the fan--something I certainly experienced when going through cancer treatment 3 years ago.
I also belong to a professional editing internet user group with members from around the world. I have witnessed an editor in Belgium having problems, sending out a call for help, and getting aid from both north and south hemispheres.
How does one find community? Actually, it's pretty easy. Look around for groups, virtual and physical, that share your interests and then---just show up.